not sure which is worse?

Is it worse for him to pretend that everything is fine when he hits 35 and 40 lows? or for him to be worried about it? Hard to answer.

We are in a hotel for a few nites while visiting his mother for Christmas and the last two nites he has gone way low. For some reason I slept through it and he woke up and took care of himself. Very great for me even if very unusual. But it has him worried. Very unusual. And unnerving!

Then again, is he going to discuss with his doctor? probably not -- said its just part of the disease and nothing the doc can do about it. Really?

Then there is his mother -- I think you know how I feel about her. Well, first we heard lectures about taking care of him. Then about how important it is for him to eat at least 3 balanced meals a day. (Remember he is 56 years old!) Then you won't believe what she served for Christmas dinner! It was a carbohydrate feast! smoked turkey, yeast rolls, corn, baked apples, potatoes, sweet carrots, shrimp dumped in ketchup sauce! not a green to be seen. when Tom asked if we were having veggies she was offended and said that's what the carrots and corn were. If he really wanted something she could make something special for him but she hadn't planned on it and wasn't sure what she had in the house and everything else was already ready and everyone would have to wait. This is the woman who accuses me of not taking care of him because I don't ask him 20 times a day what his glucose reading is. This is the woman who accused me of trying to kill him because he had a car accident when he was low and I was still asleep in bed at 6 oclock in the morning. And that's what she fixes for dinner when she knows he is coming! OH! and by the way how many times does she remind us that when she went to college she majored in nutrition! OMG!

Can you tell we've been in her presence for two days now and I'm at my limit? I know I should act more mature and let her comments roll off my back, but she still knows how to press every single one of my buttons. She is so annoying it makes these few days a year the toughest. I try to distance myself by moving to another part of the house but truly! she follows me around to be near me! What is that? Tom says it annoys him also, but its his mother and what's he supposed to do. I get that, really. but she is not my mother and distance is the only thing i can tolerate. why won't that work?

some of you may think i am being harsh here, but i have 25 years of stories that you would not believe about this woman and her incredibly selfish ways. i'm not going into them here now because it doesn't matter, suffice it to say that if you ever watched "Everybody Loves Raymond" and found Ray's mother to be annoying, that's my mother in law, but mines worse. And I am probably not as nice as the character of Ray's wife. fortunately we don't have kids to fight about, just Tom's health issues. And, I won't fight with her. I just try to walk away. but for these two or three days a year when I am stuck in this city, where there is absolutely nothing to do because everything is closed for Christmas (ARGH!) I'm stuck. A couple of hours begged off in the hotel room is the only peace I get today.

A few more hours then I can go home. For another year. I can't wait.

DW, hope your calm at-home holiday season is continuing to be nice for you.
I hope your husband isn't in too much pain and that you had a really nice day.

For everyone else who is reading this, if your Christmas is as stressful as mine, remember, its only a few days. That's my mantra. If its a great holiday, treasure every minute

A new year is coming, I'm looking forward to a great one.

Tom's Wife.