Just read an advice column on a totally different topic but it hit me right in the heart.
tell me what you think I replaced the topic with the diabetic topic
"...your husband's behavior is way more egregious. Acting unilaterally in a marriage is the heart of all betrayal. Your comfort, standard of living, quality of life, finances, safety and goals, among other things are all linked now. Your husband imposed his standards on you -- and compromised yours for you -- in every one of these categories when he acted without asking you.
The healthy, productive, forward-looking response to that isn't to suck it up and find a way to like it. Its to explain to your husband that he negated your voice in your own home, to let him know that this is not acceptable, and to say that the conversation isn't over until you have both had your say.
... since he has been .[diabetic].. for all of x months [or years], its possible he hasn't fully processed what it means to share a life. thinking something through marks the end of the reasoning process, it becomes a habit. But that gets the [diabetic] person only halfway through at best.
so point out to your husband that he skipped the part where you and he reconcile your two carefully drawn conclusions and come to a decision you both can embrace. "
do you also find this fascinating????
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No, I don't find this fascinating. I find it difficult to comprehend. We have snippets of an article that are thrown together in a haphazard fashion, and it's not easy to follow what might have been fascinating initially because the full context isn't included. "Thinking something through is the end of reasoning..." Um, what? That completely defies the definition of what reason is -> the thinking, cognition, intellect, and way a rational person understands themselves and thinks about cause and effect, truth and falsehood, and what is good or bad. Overall, the point appears to be: work together, it's a partnership. If that isn't happening, and it can't be communicated, maybe there are some deeper issues going on that need to be addressed... Diabetes aside.
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