Lots of comments on "Risk"

Usually I simply post the comments I receive
it seems this touched a nerve and people want more details
a number of people feel like they are safe because of the manner in which they post

in presenting my friend's information as I did, the intent was to "disguise" the details
this was in part to protect my friend and in part to advise that nothing is safe.

Most people probably don't know that most identity theft is initiated by someone the victim knows! rather than by a stranger. I don't mean one or two credit cards being stolen but true identity theft.

In my friend's case, well, I will let her tell it: (again edited so the key points - in my opinion -- come shining through!)

I was on my own personal computer using an internet server I pay for from my home. My husband's previous employer hacked in and trolled the key-strokes on my personal computer and followed me through the web to find my blog. They then twisted what I said and used it against him. So, he was given the choice to step down or publically defend himself against charges of being a wife beater. He did not want me to have to defend him. He did not want his employer to know we were fighting these charges. He stepped down and assures me it's a blessing in disguise.

Horrible for friend and husband - in this case husband is a true hero - friend has frequently told me that even though he frustrates the heck out of her when he doesn't take care of himself, he is always her rock.

I think that is true with many of us
and its why it is so heartbreaking when these heroes of ours lose themselves
we spent so many years counting on them - relying on them
then it seems like one day we woke up and realized that we couldn't do that any more
they stopped taking care of them selves -- they stopped being the rock-solid hero in our lives
all of a sudden - at age 50 or 40 -- 0r whatever
we had to be the hero in our own life
not what we signed up for
not what we wanted in our life

and then it all gets compounded by "normal" life problems
computers getting hacked
crappy work events
past husbands
parents who need help
kids who get in trouble
whatever

there is no need to panic
and no need to be smug
just use good common sense
and keep moving forward
its all any of us can do

A New Type of Risk

A friend of mine writes a blog - one of those stream of consciousness ones like we do here
we get the "big" stuff out so we can go back to being super wife away from our computer

well, somehow in a totally unrelated set of circumstances, her husband's employer found about her blog. He has been demoted and her computer was confiscated! How does this happen in today's society? what happened to the first amendment?

Needless to say, my friend (and her husband) are devastated!
I can only imagine.

I am wondering if I need to go back to what I've written and reconsider what is stored here.
for all my whining, I would never want to put Tom's job at risk
that never occurred to me!

WOW!

what do you think?

thanks for the support

your comments were great
DH is my hero
she started this, she gives THE BEST advice
and everyone else is terrific
all of the comments were great!

quick update

I am traveling for work so not much time to write
1) if a person doesn't like what I write, that person does not need to read my blog. don't write nasty comments, just don't read.
2) if my writing helps just one person then I am happy to keep writing - it has helped me - and it helps in part because there are others who share the life of living with a diabetic
3) a friend told me this past weekend about a tv show called "sister wives" -- I didn't know what it was -- so when we were calling ourselves that, I didn't know what it meant -- wow!!!! I don't think I want to use that moniker anymore. we have lots in common - but we really don't have the exact same husband -- yick!

back to my old comment?
sleep well tonight