Jules wrote this to me:
I'm so glad I found the site again. usually have to google in a moment
of desperation. About a month ago my dh decided that he was done and
moving out. No specific event precipitated this, just took my comment "
I don't want to spend the next 20 years like this, we need counseling."
to mean he should leave. After 23 years, that's all. He was on the
max dosage of Byetta, metformin, etc. as a long haul truck driver he
will be on disability if he has to use insulin. About a year ago he had
his top teeth pulled, no denture so far. A1C is back in double digits
and impotent for the last 12 months and no interest in anything. the
suicide by type 2 really hit home with me, I don't understand and am
angry and confused. I have managed to make the payments on my salary
(just barely, he generously contributed 50% of the house payment). I
think that I'm being manipulated and am angry. (putting it mildly) of
course he does not want a divorce (he would have to pay for his own
health insurance). I finally asked how he could just leave so easily.
no answer and dead air on the phone. Thinking I better get a lawyer and
get it done. He actually threw the Byetta pens out the truck window
(some crap about a law suit he saw on TV). Suicide by type 2 seems like
a likely result.
Anger and confusion are understandable reactions to your husband's behavior.
And there is no one solution for everyone
a person can get lots of suggestions (some stronger than others) but until I'm in your shoes, I cannot walk your path
I think that is the one thing all of us would agree on -- we each have learned to make our own decisions and take charge of our lives -- whether we wanted to or not
It is a tough learning process but it does help to share with others who have had similar experiences.
Good luck and write again
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Hello, I don't do blogs too much or know very much about them, so I apologize if I don't understand the protocol. My husband has a genetic mutation that is causing all kinds of problems, but the biggest one is Diabetes. One day, I thought,"I wonder if other people feel the way I do" and there you were. It was like I wrote you post myself. My husband is 38 years old, and is falling apart at the seams. I know he has depression, has a new leg pain that won't go away, and is slowly turning into a chair bound ass. It's really very sad. Thank you for being so candid in your posts and for sharing your thoughts and feelings.
ReplyDeleteJules,
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry that you are going through this awful time! Maybe (like me) you can look at it as a chance to start over . . . but only you can decide what is the best decision for you. We are all just struggling to find our way. Many of us have chosen to stay, some of us have decided to leave, and some of us get left behind by the very person we have tried so hard to love.
Take care of yourself,
Lilly
http://type1d.blogspot.com/