Saturday, April 30, 2011

I'm Not Doing it!

I refuse!
he is sitting on the sofa across from me
he refuses to drink the juice I set down for him
he is "falling asleep" sitting up
I'm not going to save him
if he passes out - let him
too bad
why should I fight with him
and have him call me names
say mean things to me
essentially save his life
so he can do it more?
how long can I do this?
I don't know
but I just don't want to do it?
let him save his own life.....
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10 comments:

  1. SandyApril 30, 2011 at 7:34 PM

    Ugh I hear ya....does he ever say or show that he appreciates when you "save his life"? My hubby does, I think that is a lot of what keeps me going....

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  2. AnonymousApril 30, 2011 at 8:09 PM

    thanks, Sandy.
    sometimes he does - but sometimes he gets mad and feels like its just what I'm supposed to do. It wasn't always like this. In our early years of marriage, it didn't happen so often and he was much more grateful. Now it happens more frequently, and he takes me way more for granted. sigh....

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  3. LillyApril 30, 2011 at 8:18 PM

    Tom's Wife,
    Hope you are okay. I personally HATE times like this, as these episodes usually happen in our house right after he has been really awful to me. Doesn't exactly inspire you to want to help!
    Hugs,
    Lilly

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  4. AnonymousApril 30, 2011 at 9:15 PM

    Thanks, Lilly.
    you have it right.
    of course, he is fine now
    and I'm going upstairs
    just don't want to be around him

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  5. AnonymousMay 1, 2011 at 1:25 AM

    Oh...I was there Easter morning...but finally he asked for a glocuse tablet...I was NOT going to save him again to be treated like dirt...when will we see better times...and as someone said...they are thankful at first but as the years go on and the episodes continue..
    we are expected to do everything...and I just don't care sometimes...hope you have a better tomorrow...know you are supported and we understand your feelings....TX DW

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  6. AnonymousMay 1, 2011 at 2:41 AM

    Tom's Wife,

    What an awful night.

    I'm glad Tom is fine. I'm glad you are able to not have to be around him for the rest of the night. I just don't understand what is going on with these guys lately.

    Don't you find it odd that most of them melted down last Sunday night?

    Hang in there.

    Love, S

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  7. LillyMay 1, 2011 at 7:41 AM

    I really get not wanting to be around after an episode! Hope you at least got some sleep last night.
    Take care,
    Lilly

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  8. Lynn BarryMay 2, 2011 at 11:46 AM

    For better or worse...perhaps the worst part of the marriage vows...the "worse" sucks.
    do what you have to do because YOU matter. WE LOVE YOU! XOXOXO

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  9. AnonymousMay 2, 2011 at 12:46 PM

    Happen to notice a post you made on SAR's blog regarding your DH not eating...mine hates food.
    Says he only eats to stay alive..I have to fix the food and make his plate at home or at friends...but if he sees sweets out at someone elses...look out..he will eat it up...wonder if anyone else has this situation...I will admit I am not skinny but my DH now weight a little less than I do...not the case when we married...oh well...I like food...please keep posting...I need everyone's support...we are having a bad spell...don't know what I did...but he is not speaking so I moved to my front hobby/guest room...and I am getting like some others...I will refuse to care for him if he continues to act like this...I can't take it anymore...TX DW

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  10. DiabeteswifeMay 3, 2011 at 1:41 AM

    Last Sunday was Easter and all the sugar...happens every holiday here. I'm done, too. Going to work on me for awhile. eBay all the stuff I cam. Downsize. Diet. Exercise. Spend more time with my family and friends and let him fend for himself!!

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